I have been asked several times here lately just how I have went about explaining my upcoming surgery to my gaggle of children.
First off I never even though about hiding any of it from them. It is just too big of a recovery to do that.
The oldest 3 (16,13 &10) - I simply told them the truth. I told them what I was having done and why I was doing it. I laid out how the recovery will most likely go and what they can expect from me during it. I also told them what I expected of them. My oldest boys wanted to know exactly what a tummy tuck was and how it was performed. I told them, every gruesome detail. My daughter (10) didn't really ask any questions. She asked if she could stay home from school and take care of me. How sweet, ya right, any excuse to miss school.
My 6yr old knows that I will have a cut and some stitches but that is about it. I have prepared him by reminding how it was after baby was born (almost a year ago) and he gets that.
I think what you tell your children is up to you and how old your children are. It also depends on the mood of your house. We are a very open family. Things are discussed openly, they all know that Big Daddy and I have an open door policy when it comes to touchy subject matters.
I worried about the impact this decision would have on the self esteem of my daughter. Hoping that by me electing to have plastic surgery, would that make her feel the need to have to look perfect, feel perfect, be perfect.
I decided to open up that subject with her one day, I said "Diva, you know that you don't have to worry about your body right now?" "You are beautiful just the way you are" Diva answered with " I am aren't I?"
I don't think her self esteem has been damaged at all.